Last year, a man named “Ryan” sat across from me on Zoom — eyes down, shoulders heavy — like a man who had been carrying the weight of his entire household on his back. He told me something I’ve heard countless times over the last fourteen years: “I’m not in love with my wife anymore. […]
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Michael sat on the edge of his office chair, elbows on his knees, hands locked like he was bracing for a punch. He didn’t seem like a man acting on impulse. He seemed like someone who had been carrying something for far too long. “I know how this looks,” he said, eyes fixed on the
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A man came to me recently after enduring months of physical abuse from his wife. She had slapped him across the face during arguments, broke a wooden hanger over his arm, and even hurled an empty wine bottle at him. On the night she threw the wine bottle, fearing it would escalate further, he reluctantly
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When “Paul” was describing his marriage to me, his eyes began to tear up as he described the constant arguing, criticism, and disparaging of his character while in the presence of his young children. His wife “Michelle” seemed to seek out any opportunities she could find to judge, criticize, and blame him for anything. Sadly,
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A divorce is likely to amplify some of your spouse’s narcissistic tendencies. The only thing more challenging than a divorce from a narcissistic spouse is helping your children through having a narcissistic parent. Since narcissism can present itself in varied ways, managing co-parenting and navigating your children through the difficult territory, is a complicated and
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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought about how your feelings for them have changed? Or how about on your morning run, you think about how your relationship has changed and how the hell did you get here? You are changing. Your relationship is changing. Just because something was right for you in
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Have you ever played the victim? If so, do you remember the emotional need you were trying to fulfill or express while doing so? It’s the same for someone with a narcissistic personality, but they may feel it more often. If the love bombing and fake apologies didn’t work on you, it’s time for them
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What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed, guilty, or confused about your choices. The goal here is simple: they need to feel
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The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that
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Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though we cannot do it alone and that it takes two people in a partnership. And
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