Co-parenting does not fail simply because two people are divorced. It fails when one parent decides that punishment matters more than the child. Divorce ends the marriage, but it does not end the responsibility two parents share. That responsibility remains even when there is anger, resentment, disappointment, or betrayal. But in high-conflict divorce, that responsibility […]
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How to Deflate a Narcissist’s Ego: 13 Calm Phrases That Stop Manipulation When Seth first began working with me, he was exhausted—not from fighting, but from trying so hard to get it right. Every conversation with his wife followed the same pattern. He stayed calm. He explained himself carefully. He chose his words with precision,
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Recently, my client “Paul” had described how his soon-to-be ex-wife continues to violate his private space. The couple has been separated for nearly 5 months; Paul had moved into their second home a few blocks down the street from the marital home. With their shared parenting plan in the process for their young son, the
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Oftentimes, a client will describe the behavior of their soon-to-be ex-spouse, which is manipulation 101. As I listen and take notes, I will circle back and discuss each behavior/tactic in detail with them. Then I will go on to inform them of the details of what exactly is considered manipulative behavior and ask them if
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Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced
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Have you ever played the victim? If so, do you remember the emotional need you were trying to fulfill or express while doing so? It’s the same for someone with a narcissistic personality, but they may feel it more often. If the love bombing and fake apologies didn’t work on you, it’s time for them
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What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed, guilty, or confused about your choices. The goal here is simple: they need to feel
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The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that
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Your ex probably knows how to press your buttons better than anyone. Maybe they are always late picking up or dropping off your kids despite your reminders to be on time. It could be the patronizing way they speak to you or their stubborn refusal to agree to a reasonable request, or they text you
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Whether you are the exhausted spouse of a narcissist and filed for divorce or your spouse decided to end the marriage, one thing is for sure and that is once involved in a divorce the emotional abuse will get worse. Narcissists will pull out all the stops to “win” the divorce at any cost. In
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