Every year, my clients brace for November and December when the dreaded holiday season begins. Recently, a client informed me he was relieved to have “survived” Thanksgiving and bracing himself for Christmas morning without his children this year. For those newly out of a marriage, the emphasis on being close to loved ones at this …
During consultations, most men will ask me if it’s possible to come up with a “game plan” for their upcoming divorce. I have always found that during stressful times, having a plan of action with goals, tends to give individuals more peace and less stress. In fact, with the right planning, not only will it …
As a divorce coach, I will never tell clients “Time will heal their divorce wounds.” Can you take a guess why? For the simple reason, that it is not a long-term strategy and for the fact that I don’t believe that statement is true. In fact, as a divorce coach, I see first-hand how damaging …
When you and your spouse have decided to divorce, emotions tend to take control of how individuals behave. You may have the best intentions of being amicable and fair, especially when it comes to dividing your time with your children. Recently, I had a client who was under the impression both he and his wife …
So often when doing consultations with men, they will share with me they are in a sexless marriage which has led them down the path of seeking a divorce. After explaining how they were not experiencing the occasional dry spell, many of them had gone several years without being intimate with their wives. As hard …
Oftentimes, I have clients who have shared custody with their ex, yet due to various reasons, cannot communicate with them. Just recently, a client explained how for months he tried to communicate with his ex-wife, to no avail. She rarely returned his calls or emails. When his children were sick and went to the doctor, …
A few weeks ago, I had a consultation with a gentleman who reached out to me for help to both navigate his divorce and improve his co-parenting relationship with his wife. His parenting concerns were a bit unusual. As we discussed his fears, he did not know if he would be a good father due …
BEING A GOOD FATHER DESPITE HAVING A BAD ONE YOURSELF! Read More »
I want you to think about this; when we put labels on parents such as “custodial” and “non-custodial” would you agree that we are creating a winner and a loser? I think it’s also safe to say we are also an image in the mind of the child, such as “my dad lost in the …
CUSTODIAL vs. NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT; A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY FOR FATHERS? Read More »
You’ve made the decision that your marriage is not going to work. You brought up the topic of divorce and hoping to go about this amicably. However, she didn’t respond, or you couldn’t agree to the terms. Your gut is telling you this is going to be a divorce war. Now what? I’m asked many …
Are you watching commercial after commercial showing families gathering for the holidays and thinking to yourself how sad and frustrated you are due to not being with your children this holiday? I tell my clients “You cannot control the holidays, but you can control how you go through them.” Let’s think about that for a …
GOING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS WITHOUT YOUR CHILDREN Read More »