One of the most confusing experiences for a man in a toxic relationship is this: he can see clearly that the relationship is hurting him and still feel drawn back to it. That contradiction is not weakness. It is not ignorance. And it is not because some part of him wants the chaos. It happens […]
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How to Deflate a Narcissist’s Ego: 13 Calm Phrases That Stop Manipulation When Seth first began working with me, he was exhausted—not from fighting, but from trying so hard to get it right. Every conversation with his wife followed the same pattern. He stayed calm. He explained himself carefully. He chose his words with precision,
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Despite the circumstances, divorce remains one of the most traumatic events you can experience in your adult life. The psychological impact of divorce may leave you anticipating a holiday season filled with emotional challenges. Many clients express concerns about the potential stress associated with spending the holidays with their ex-spouse, which could involve excessive drinking,
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Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since
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Recently, my client “Paul” had described how his soon-to-be ex-wife continues to violate his private space. The couple has been separated for nearly 5 months; Paul had moved into their second home a few blocks down the street from the marital home. With their shared parenting plan in the process for their young son, the
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Oftentimes, a client will describe the behavior of their soon-to-be ex-spouse, which is manipulation 101. As I listen and take notes, I will circle back and discuss each behavior/tactic in detail with them. Then I will go on to inform them of the details of what exactly is considered manipulative behavior and ask them if
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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought about how your feelings for them have changed? Or how about on your morning run, you think about how your relationship has changed and how the hell did you get here? You are changing. Your relationship is changing. Just because something was right for you in
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Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced
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There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife
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