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How to navigate the holidays during your divorce!

Co-Parenting, Communicating with co-parent, communicating with ex-spouse, Custody, Divorce, Healing from divorce, Single fathers

Despite the circumstances, divorce remains one of the most traumatic events you can experience in your adult life. The psychological impact of divorce may leave you anticipating a holiday season filled with emotional challenges. Many clients express concerns about the potential stress associated with spending the holidays with their ex-spouse, which could involve excessive drinking, […]

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How to focus on the things you can control!

alimony, Co-Parenting, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, Divorce Coaching, high conflict divorce, support for men divorce

Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since

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HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES DURING A DIVORCE!

Co-Parenting, Communicating with a narcissist, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, high conflict divorce, Narcissists

Recently, my client “Paul” had described how his soon-to-be ex-wife continues to violate his private space. The couple has been separated for nearly 5 months; Paul had moved into their second home a few blocks down the street from the marital home. With their shared parenting plan in the process for their young son, the

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The effects infidelity may have in a divorce!

alimony, Co-Parenting, communicating with ex-spouse, Custody, Dating during a divorce, Divorce, divorce & money, Divorce Coaching, high conflict divorce, Marriage, support for men divorce

Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that

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HOW TO SPOT EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Co-Parenting, Communicating with a narcissist, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, Marriage, Narcissists, support for men divorce

Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced

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WHY MEN DON’T RECEIVE ALIMONY!

alimony, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, divorce & money, Divorce Coaching, high conflict divorce, Marriage, mediation, support for men divorce

There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men.  However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife

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WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU IGNORE A NARCISSIST: PART TWO

Co-Parenting, Communicating with a narcissist, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, Divorce Coaching For Men, high conflict divorce, Narcissists, support for men divorce

Have you ever played the victim? If so, do you remember the emotional need you were trying to fulfill or express while doing so? It’s the same for someone with a narcissistic personality, but they may feel it more often. If the love bombing and fake apologies didn’t work on you, it’s time for them

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What To Expect When You Ignore A Narcissist! Part One

Co-Parenting, Communicating with a narcissist, communicating with ex-spouse, Divorce, divorce & money, Divorce Coaching For Men, False Allegations, Healing from divorce, high conflict divorce, Narcissists, support for men divorce

What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed, guilty, or confused about your choices. The goal here is simple: they need to feel

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