Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced …
I was struck by a recent conversation I had during a consultation. “Daniel” had expressed how unhappy he has been for the past seven years in his 32-year marriage. Both children were grown and married, his career was incredibly rewarding, and he had a good number of close friends. However, he found himself living …
There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife …
The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that …
Recently, I was a guest speaker at a men’s event, teaching the attendees the importance of knowing their self-worth and how to create boundaries with individuals including spouses. During the break, a wife of an attendee pulled me aside and asked for my advice. Her question was “what is the one thing I would recommend …
4 signs sex is being weaponized in your marriage! Read More »
As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they …
5 proven steps to tell your wife you want a divorce! Read More »
A few weeks ago, a new client explained how he learned of his impending divorce. It began with an argument over issues they had fought over numerous times: money, lack of sex, and their kids. However, this time it didn’t end with either one of them apologizing. The next day, he left for a business …
how to cope WHEN YOU ARE Blindsided by a divorce! Read More »
I get it, you’ve met someone during your divorce, and it feels like a miracle. You’ve gone months or maybe years of hurt drama and lack of intimacy that now you feel “alive” again and hopeful of a brighter future. You may be thinking that you’ll be able to go through your divorce without having …
WAIT TO DATE! WHY DATING THROUGH DIVORCE MAY COST YOU Read More »
Sometimes, an act of infidelity can lead to a prompt and bitter breakup. Other times, couples just gradually drift apart and eventually realize they’re better off separated. Many couples waver back and forth when thinking about divorce and consider several different factors. Ideally, this decision would be clear-cut, but reality is much more ambiguous. Divorce …
I’m going to say something that may not sit well with some people, “When sex is being used as a weapon in a marriage, don’t be shocked if it leads to divorce!” Now I know someone may be thinking “divorcing over sex/intimacy issues is not a good reason,” and to that, I say you’re wrong. …
SEX AS A WEAPON IN MARRIAGE CAN LEAD TO A DIVORCE! Read More »