Most parents do not approach divorce believing it will benefit their children. In fact, many fear the opposite. For many fathers, concern about the children is one of the strongest reasons they remain in a marriage long after the relationship has become deeply unhappy, hostile, or emotionally unhealthy. They worry that divorce will destabilize their […]
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Verbal abuse does not always sound like screaming. Sometimes it sounds like sarcasm. A cutting remark delivered with a smile. A private criticism repeated in front of other people. A dismissive laugh when you try to explain that something hurt you. Then, when you react, you are told you are too sensitive. Many men do
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Last year, a man named “Ryan” sat across from me on Zoom — eyes down, shoulders heavy — like a man who had been carrying the weight of his entire household on his back. He told me something I’ve heard countless times over the last fourteen years: “I’m not in love with my wife anymore.
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Michael sat on the edge of his office chair, elbows on his knees, hands locked like he was bracing for a punch. He didn’t seem like a man acting on impulse. He seemed like someone who had been carrying something for far too long. “I know how this looks,” he said, eyes fixed on the
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought about how your feelings for them have changed? Or how about on your morning run, you think about how your relationship has changed and how the hell did you get here? You are changing. Your relationship is changing. Just because something was right for you in
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Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced
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I was struck by a recent conversation I had during a consultation. “Daniel” had expressed how unhappy he has been for the past seven years in his 32-year marriage. Both children were grown and married, his career was incredibly rewarding, and he had a good number of close friends. However, he found himself living
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There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife
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The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that
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