Last year, a man named “Ryan” sat across from me on Zoom — eyes down, shoulders heavy — like a man who had been carrying the weight of his entire household on his back. He told me something I’ve heard countless times over the last fourteen years: “I’m not in love with my wife anymore. […]
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Michael sat on the edge of his office chair, elbows on his knees, hands locked like he was bracing for a punch. He didn’t seem like a man acting on impulse. He seemed like someone who had been carrying something for far too long. “I know how this looks,” he said, eyes fixed on the
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A man came to me recently after enduring months of physical abuse from his wife. She had slapped him across the face during arguments, broke a wooden hanger over his arm, and even hurled an empty wine bottle at him. On the night she threw the wine bottle, fearing it would escalate further, he reluctantly
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A divorce is likely to amplify some of your spouse’s narcissistic tendencies. The only thing more challenging than a divorce from a narcissistic spouse is helping your children through having a narcissistic parent. Since narcissism can present itself in varied ways, managing co-parenting and navigating your children through the difficult territory, is a complicated and
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Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to me and ask if what they are describing is considered abuse since they’ve been convinced
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I was struck by a recent conversation I had during a consultation. “Daniel” had expressed how unhappy he has been for the past seven years in his 32-year marriage. Both children were grown and married, his career was incredibly rewarding, and he had a good number of close friends. However, he found himself living
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There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife
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Have you ever played the victim? If so, do you remember the emotional need you were trying to fulfill or express while doing so? It’s the same for someone with a narcissistic personality, but they may feel it more often. If the love bombing and fake apologies didn’t work on you, it’s time for them
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