How to Deflate a Narcissist’s Ego: 13 Calm Phrases That Stop Manipulation When Seth first began working with me, he was exhausted—not from fighting, but from trying so hard to get it right. Every conversation with his wife followed the same pattern. He stayed calm. He explained himself carefully. He chose his words with precision, […]
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Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since
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Recently, my client “Paul” had described how his soon-to-be ex-wife continues to violate his private space. The couple has been separated for nearly 5 months; Paul had moved into their second home a few blocks down the street from the marital home. With their shared parenting plan in the process for their young son, the
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Oftentimes, a client will describe the behavior of their soon-to-be ex-spouse, which is manipulation 101. As I listen and take notes, I will circle back and discuss each behavior/tactic in detail with them. Then I will go on to inform them of the details of what exactly is considered manipulative behavior and ask them if
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There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife
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Have you ever played the victim? If so, do you remember the emotional need you were trying to fulfill or express while doing so? It’s the same for someone with a narcissistic personality, but they may feel it more often. If the love bombing and fake apologies didn’t work on you, it’s time for them
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What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed, guilty, or confused about your choices. The goal here is simple: they need to feel
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The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that
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Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though we cannot do it alone and that it takes two people in a partnership. And
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