Why is nobody talking about…….?
If you’re a man about to go through a divorce, know this: You are about to go through an unfair and biased process! I’m sure you’ve heard stories from friends or relatives about how they were “taken to the cleaners” and walked away with less time with their children than their ex. This is not always the case, however, it occurs more often than not.
Sadly, the stories men are sharing with you, are most likely accurate in terms of their divorce settlement, spousal support, child support, finances, shared parenting time, etc. Both the courts and our culture have ingrained sexist biases.
Men don’t have the luxury of the resources women do, they are often painted as the “villain” or “aggressor” in most divorce stories and custody cases, often the victims of parental alienation, are often not awarded spousal maintenance (alimony) even when eligible and they do not always receive 50% shared parenting time.
The system is essentially flawed and incredibly biased!
Spousal Maintenance (alimony):
Only 3% of recipients of spousal maintenance in the United States are men, according to Census figures. Yet 40 percent of households are headed by female breadwinners — suggesting that hundreds of thousands of men are eligible for alimony, yet don’t receive it.
Shared Parenting Time (custody):
Only recently as 2018, Kentucky was the first state to pass a law that makes equally shared parenting time the starting point. In 2021, Arkansas followed. Yet, as of today, this is not the case throughout each state such as in Virginia. Equal shared parenting laws support and encourage cooperation between the parents rather than instigating conflict as laws that do not.
In today’s culture, women have spent years advocating for equality, yet I’m always amazed that many bright and sophisticated women don’t realize nor want to accept that they will have to possibly pay spousal support to their ex-husbands, have equal amount of parenting time with the children, and that their ex-husbands should no longer be forced to finance their lifestyle.
Too often, men give up and accept this. My mission, as the only female divorce coach for men, is to redefine how men go through their divorce, the support they receive, and to empower them not to settle for less than they deserve in society that preaches equality.