divorce & money

The effects infidelity may have in a divorce!

Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that …

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DIVORCING OVER 50; IS IT WORTH IT?

  I was struck by a recent conversation I had during a consultation. “Daniel” had expressed how unhappy he has been for the past seven years in his 32-year marriage. Both children were grown and married, his career was incredibly rewarding, and he had a good number of close friends. However, he found himself living …

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WHY MEN DON’T RECEIVE ALIMONY!

There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men.  However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife …

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What To Expect When You Ignore A Narcissist! Part One

What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed, guilty, or confused about your choices. The goal here is simple: they need to feel …

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HOW TO OUTSMART THE COVERT NARCISSIST!

The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that …

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HOW TO FORGIVE MYSELF DURING MY DIVORCE.

Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though we cannot do it alone and that it takes two people in a partnership. And …

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ARE YOU BEING TRIGGERED BY YOUR EX?

Your ex probably knows how to press your buttons better than anyone. Maybe they are always late picking up or dropping off your kids despite your reminders to be on time. It could be the patronizing way they speak to you or their stubborn refusal to agree to a reasonable request, or they text you …

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Depositions in a divorce case explained!

If you find yourself in the beginning phase of the divorce process, you’re about to go through the “discovery” process, also known as the information-gathering phase. Discovery takes place regardless of mediation, collaborative, or a litigated divorce. This phase is almost always necessary, even if you and your spouse agree on the particulars of how …

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5 proven steps to tell your wife you want a divorce!

As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they …

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