Last year, a man named “Ryan” sat across from me on Zoom — eyes down, shoulders heavy — like a man who had been carrying the weight of his entire household on his back. He told me something I’ve heard countless times over the last fourteen years: “I’m not in love with my wife anymore. […]
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Whether you are the exhausted spouse of a narcissist and filed for divorce or your spouse decided to end the marriage, one thing is for sure and that is once involved in a divorce the emotional abuse will get worse. Narcissists will pull out all the stops to “win” the divorce at any cost. In
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The decision to divorce is rarely made in one moment. For most men, it comes after months — sometimes years — of trying to make sense of what has changed, what can still be repaired, and what can no longer be ignored. By the time you are seriously considering divorce, you may already feel emotionally
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When you and your spouse have decided to divorce, emotions tend to take control of how individuals behave. You may have the best intentions of being amicable and fair, especially when it comes to dividing your time with your children. Recently, I had a client who was under the impression both he and his wife
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I want you to think about this; when we put labels on parents such as “custodial” and “non-custodial” would you agree that we are creating a winner and a loser? I think it’s also safe to say we are also an image in the mind of the child, such as “my dad lost in the
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Speaking with a client earlier this week, he described new behaviors he was seeing with his estranged wife. His co-parenting relationship had become “different” once he moved out of the family home a few weeks earlier. To start with, he had difficulty reaching his children each time he phoned. There were excuses such as “they’re
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Are you watching commercial after commercial showing families gathering for the holidays and thinking to yourself how sad and frustrated you are due to not being with your children this holiday? I tell my clients “You cannot control the holidays, but you can control how you go through them.” Let’s think about that for a
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It’s hard enough going through your divorce with your high conflict spouse, but now you’ve entered the frustrating and emotional phase of trying to co-parent with them and lessen those effects on your children. As an adult, we have a better chance to get away from a toxic friend, partner, or boss often with some degree of difficulty,
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During the past 12 years, I have witnessed Parental Alienation Syndrome occur more than ever lately. Sadly, it has become an epidemic! Many of my clients assume this will never happen to them, however, too often this is not the case. I should know, as a child I was emotionally alienated from my father. Society
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