Most parents do not approach divorce believing it will benefit their children. In fact, many fear the opposite. For many fathers, concern about the children is one of the strongest reasons they remain in a marriage long after the relationship has become deeply unhappy, hostile, or emotionally unhealthy. They worry that divorce will destabilize their
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Verbal abuse does not always sound like screaming. Sometimes it sounds like sarcasm. A cutting remark delivered with a smile. A private criticism repeated in front of other people. A dismissive laugh when you try to explain that something hurt you. Then, when you react, you are told you are too sensitive. Many men do
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Co-parenting does not fail simply because two people are divorced. It fails when one parent decides that punishment matters more than the child. Divorce ends the marriage, but it does not end the responsibility two parents share. That responsibility remains even when there is anger, resentment, disappointment, or betrayal. But in high-conflict divorce, that responsibility
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Last year, a man named “Ryan” sat across from me on Zoom — eyes down, shoulders heavy — like a man who had been carrying the weight of his entire household on his back. He told me something I’ve heard countless times over the last fourteen years: “I’m not in love with my wife anymore.
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Despite the circumstances, divorce remains one of the most traumatic events you can experience in your adult life. The psychological impact of divorce may leave you anticipating a holiday season filled with emotional challenges. Many clients express concerns about the potential stress associated with spending the holidays with their ex-spouse, which could involve excessive drinking,
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A divorce is likely to amplify some of your spouse’s narcissistic tendencies. The only thing more challenging than a divorce from a narcissistic spouse is helping your children through having a narcissistic parent. Since narcissism can present itself in varied ways, managing co-parenting and navigating your children through the difficult territory, is a complicated and
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Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since
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Recently, my client “Paul” had described how his soon-to-be ex-wife continues to violate his private space. The couple has been separated for nearly 5 months; Paul had moved into their second home a few blocks down the street from the marital home. With their shared parenting plan in the process for their young son, the
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought about how your feelings for them have changed? Or how about on your morning run, you think about how your relationship has changed and how the hell did you get here? You are changing. Your relationship is changing. Just because something was right for you in
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