A few weeks ago, I met with a gentleman who was about to begin the divorce process. After countless years of unhappiness and frustration, he decided this was the best decision for himself. After watching videos on social media, and speaking with co-workers and friends, he couldn’t understand why he was feeling hopeful and relieved …
As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they …
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Going through a divorce is one of life’s greatest stressors. Whether you are resistant to the divorce, and it feels like a tragedy, or you are initiating the divorce and it feels like an escape, there is no doubt that divorce creates a massive change in your family life, finances, and day-to-day routine. However, oftentimes the …
During consultations, most men will ask me if it’s possible to come up with a “game plan” for their upcoming divorce. I have always found that during stressful times, having a plan of action with goals, tends to give individuals more peace and less stress. In fact, with the right planning, not only will it …
As parents, we might assume divorce always has a negative emotional impact on children. Your family and friends may be reaffirming this notion to you that it may be best to wait until the children are older, thereby, lessening the impact a divorce may have on them. When children are exposed to chronic conflict between …
I’ll never forget the day I knew I no longer wanted to stay “stuck” in my marriage. While having lunch with a friend, she pointed out that I didn’t seem happy a few days earlier when she was having dinner at my home with her husband. For years, I had not told anyone I had …
I’m sure you’ve heard the statistic that 50% of marriages end in divorce. But I bet you never thought your marriage would be one of them. No one does. Divorce is an emotionally charged time for any couple. When you decided to get married, your relationship was built on a foundation of mutual respect and …
Negotiating your divorce with your spouse can save you a huge amount of time and money. At the same time, direct negotiation isn’t for everyone. If you want to give it a go, follow the rules laid out in this article. Consult with your divorce team. And, above all, be prepared. In most cases, negotiating …
Are you still interacting with your ex-spouse even though it’s been so hard? Aren’t you tired? Aren’t you exhausted? Why are you still putting up with this? Narcissistic abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and/or financial. Some types of emotional abuse are not easy to spot, including manipulation. It can include emotional blackmail, using threats and intimidation to exercise control. Narcissists are masters of …
As you’re going through a divorce or separation, reaching out to your ex can be tempting and have an impact on the direction your divorce is going. I spend a great deal of time editing emails and text messages for clients, especially at the beginning of their divorce when emotions are running high, and they …