Marriage

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4 signs sex is being weaponized in your marriage!

Recently, I was a guest speaker at a men’s event, teaching the attendees the importance of knowing their self-worth and how to create boundaries with individuals including spouses. During the break, a wife of an attendee pulled me aside and asked for my advice. Her question was “what is the one thing I would recommend

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How to inform your spouse you want a divorce!

As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they

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how to cope WHEN YOU ARE Blindsided by a divorce!

A few weeks ago, a new client explained how he learned of his impending divorce. It began with an argument over issues they had fought over numerous times: money, lack of sex, and their kids. However, this time it didn’t end with either one of them apologizing. The next day, he left for a business

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WAIT TO DATE! WHY DATING THROUGH DIVORCE MAY COST YOU

I get it, you’ve met someone during your divorce, and it feels like a miracle. You’ve gone months or maybe years of hurt drama and lack of intimacy that now you feel “alive” again and hopeful of a brighter future. You may be thinking that you’ll be able to go through your divorce without having

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WHETHER OR NOT TO RECONCILE WITH YOUR EX

Sometimes, an act of infidelity can lead to a prompt and bitter breakup. Other times, couples just gradually drift apart and eventually realize they’re better off separated. Many couples waver back and forth when thinking about divorce and consider several different factors. Ideally, this decision would be clear-cut, but reality is much more ambiguous. Divorce

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SEX AS A WEAPON IN MARRIAGE CAN LEAD TO A DIVORCE!

I’m going to say something that may not sit well with some people, “When sex is being used as a weapon in a marriage, don’t be shocked if it leads to divorce!” Now I know someone may be thinking “divorcing over sex/intimacy issues is not a good reason,” and to that, I say you’re wrong.

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MY WIFE WANTS A DIVORCE AND I DON’T!

A few weeks ago, a new client “Bill” had reached out to me regarding his impending divorce. He explained how this was something his wife wanted and was going to pursue, even though he did not want this.  In fact, up until when she broke the news to him, he was under the impression that

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I WANT TO LEAVE MY SEXLESS MARRIAGE!

So often when doing consultations with men, they will share with me they are in a sexless marriage which has led them down the path of seeking a divorce. After explaining how they were not experiencing the occasional dry spell, many of them had gone several years without being intimate with their wives. As hard

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DIVORCE: Taking a leap of faith!

Throughout most of my marriage, I had contemplated a divorce. All the warning signs were there, however, I would make excuses of why I should stay and in the interim, sacrifice my happiness. Then one day, I had my “aha” moment and realized I had the strength to go down this path and take a

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