Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though we cannot do it alone and that it takes two people in a partnership. And …
Your ex probably knows how to press your buttons better than anyone. Maybe they are always late picking up or dropping off your kids despite your reminders to be on time. It could be the patronizing way they speak to you or their stubborn refusal to agree to a reasonable request, or they text you …
If you find yourself in the beginning phase of the divorce process, you’re about to go through the “discovery” process, also known as the information-gathering phase. Discovery takes place regardless of mediation, collaborative, or a litigated divorce. This phase is almost always necessary, even if you and your spouse agree on the particulars of how …
When you’re going through a divorce with a narcissist, there are many challenges and tactics you will endure. Disregard the previous sentence, when you’re divorcing a narcissist, buckle up because you’re in for a hell of a ride! If you find yourself being dragged into a custody case, the game becomes far more serious. You …
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Whether you are the exhausted spouse of a narcissist and filed for divorce or your spouse decided to end the marriage, one thing is for sure and that is once involved in a divorce the emotional abuse will get worse. Narcissists will pull out all the stops to “win” the divorce at any cost. In …
A few weeks ago, I met with a gentleman who was about to begin the divorce process. After countless years of unhappiness and frustration, he decided this was the best decision for himself. After watching videos on social media, and speaking with co-workers and friends, he couldn’t understand why he was feeling hopeful and relieved …
Recently, I was a guest speaker at a men’s event, teaching the attendees the importance of knowing their self-worth and how to create boundaries with individuals including spouses. During the break, a wife of an attendee pulled me aside and asked for my advice. Her question was “what is the one thing I would recommend …
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As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they …
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Going through a divorce is one of life’s greatest stressors. Whether you are resistant to the divorce, and it feels like a tragedy, or you are initiating the divorce and it feels like an escape, there is no doubt that divorce creates a massive change in your family life, finances, and day-to-day routine. However, oftentimes the …
During consultations, most men will ask me if it’s possible to come up with a “game plan” for their upcoming divorce. I have always found that during stressful times, having a plan of action with goals, tends to give individuals more peace and less stress. In fact, with the right planning, not only will it …