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SEX AS A WEAPON IN MARRIAGE CAN LEAD TO A DIVORCE!

I’m going to say something that may not sit well with some people, “When sex is being used as a weapon in a marriage, don’t be shocked if it leads to divorce!” Now I know someone may be thinking “divorcing over sex/intimacy issues is not a good reason,” and to that, I say you’re wrong. …

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MY WIFE WANTS A DIVORCE AND I DON’T!

A few weeks ago, a new client “Bill” had reached out to me regarding his impending divorce. He explained how this was something his wife wanted and was going to pursue, even though he did not want this.  In fact, up until when she broke the news to him, he was under the impression that …

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I WANT TO LEAVE MY SEXLESS MARRIAGE!

So often when doing consultations with men, they will share with me they are in a sexless marriage which has led them down the path of seeking a divorce. After explaining how they were not experiencing the occasional dry spell, many of them had gone several years without being intimate with their wives. As hard …

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WHEN COMMUNICATION WITH A TOXIC EX HAS FAILED!

Oftentimes, I have clients who have shared custody with their ex, yet due to various reasons, cannot communicate with them. Just recently, a client explained how for months he tried to communicate with his ex-wife, to no avail. She rarely returned his calls or emails. When his children were sick and went to the doctor, …

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BEING A GOOD FATHER DESPITE HAVING A BAD ONE YOURSELF!

A few weeks ago, I had a consultation with a gentleman who reached out to me for help to both navigate his divorce and improve his co-parenting relationship with his wife. His parenting concerns were a bit unusual. As we discussed his fears, he did not know if he would be a good father due …

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CUSTODIAL vs. NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT; A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY FOR FATHERS?

I want you to think about this; when we put labels on parents such as “custodial” and “non-custodial” would you agree that we are creating a winner and a loser? I think it’s also safe to say we are also an image in the mind of the child, such as “my dad lost in the …

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5 Warning Signs Parental Alienation May Begin To Occur.

Speaking with a client earlier this week, he described new behaviors he was seeing with his estranged wife. His co-parenting relationship had become “different” once he moved out of the family home a few weeks earlier. To start with, he had difficulty reaching his children each time he phoned. There were excuses such as “they’re …

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DIVORCE: taking A LEAP OF FAITH!

Throughout most of my marriage, I had contemplated a divorce. All the warning signs were there, however, I would make excuses of why I should stay and in the interim, sacrifice my happiness. Then one day, I had my “aha” moment and realized I had the strength to go down this path and take a …

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GOING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS WITHOUT YOUR CHILDREN

Are you watching commercial after commercial showing families gathering for the holidays and thinking to yourself how sad and frustrated you are due to not being with your children this holiday? I tell my clients “You cannot control the holidays, but you can control how you go through them.” Let’s think about that for a …

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How to emotionally divorce your ex-spouse!

Once your divorce settlement is final, you know where everything of value that you acquired during your marriage has gone. But what about the intangibles, like the love and emotional bonds you shared with another person? Where do they go? The truth is, it is often much easier to part with material things than the …

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