When “Paul” was describing his marriage to me, his eyes began to tear up as he described the constant arguing, criticism, and disparaging of his character while in the presence of his young children. His wife “Michelle” seemed to seek out any opportunities she could find to judge, criticize, and blame him for anything. Sadly, […]
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A divorce is likely to amplify some of your spouse’s narcissistic tendencies. The only thing more challenging than a divorce from a narcissistic spouse is helping your children through having a narcissistic parent. Since narcissism can present itself in varied ways, managing co-parenting and navigating your children through the difficult territory, is a complicated and
Helping your child cope with a narcissistic parent! Read More »
Last weekend my client “Chris “phoned me overwhelmed by stress, while attending his son’s baseball game. He realized his co-parent was not there as she had promised. When he phoned her, she informed him she had changed her mind and decided not to be there. This was both frustrating and very disappointing to him since
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Divorce is hard enough on its own, even more so when infidelity is involved. Emotions are bound to run high and while divorce is a legal process, it’s also deeply personal. If you’ve been wronged by a cheating spouse, you might hope for consequences in the divorce process to reflect the hurt and betrayal that
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Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought about how your feelings for them have changed? Or how about on your morning run, you think about how your relationship has changed and how the hell did you get here? You are changing. Your relationship is changing. Just because something was right for you in
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There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men. However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did a consultation with “Mark” (not his real name) who was recently informed by his wife
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The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs on a broad spectrum that involves a range of potential traits. Experts generally agree that
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Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though we cannot do it alone and that it takes two people in a partnership. And
HOW TO FORGIVE MYSELF DURING MY DIVORCE. Read More »
Your ex probably knows how to press your buttons better than anyone. Maybe they are always late picking up or dropping off your kids despite your reminders to be on time. It could be the patronizing way they speak to you or their stubborn refusal to agree to a reasonable request, or they text you
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Every year, my clients brace for November and December when the dreaded holiday season begins. Recently, a client informed me he was relieved to have “survived” Thanksgiving and bracing himself for Christmas morning without his children this year. For those newly out of a marriage, the emphasis on being close to loved ones at this
Your first holiday divorced; now what? Read More »