Whether you are the exhausted spouse of a narcissist and filed for divorce or your spouse decided to end the marriage, one thing is for sure and that is once involved in a divorce the emotional abuse will get worse. Narcissists will pull out all the stops to “win” the divorce at any cost. In …
A few weeks ago, I met with a gentleman who was about to begin the divorce process. After countless years of unhappiness and frustration, he decided this was the best decision for himself. After watching videos on social media, and speaking with co-workers and friends, he couldn’t understand why he was feeling hopeful and relieved …
Recently, I was a guest speaker at a men’s event, teaching the attendees the importance of knowing their self-worth and how to create boundaries with individuals including spouses. During the break, a wife of an attendee pulled me aside and asked for my advice. Her question was “what is the one thing I would recommend …
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As a divorce coach, I work with men in every phase of the divorce process. Whether it’s at the beginning, middle, or towards the end, each phase has its set of challenges. Yet, the one phase I see as the most paralyzing seems to be informing their spouse they want to divorce even when they …
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Going through a divorce is one of life’s greatest stressors. Whether you are resistant to the divorce, and it feels like a tragedy, or you are initiating the divorce and it feels like an escape, there is no doubt that divorce creates a massive change in your family life, finances, and day-to-day routine. However, oftentimes the …
During consultations, most men will ask me if it’s possible to come up with a “game plan” for their upcoming divorce. I have always found that during stressful times, having a plan of action with goals, tends to give individuals more peace and less stress. In fact, with the right planning, not only will it …
As parents, we might assume divorce always has a negative emotional impact on children. Your family and friends may be reaffirming this notion to you that it may be best to wait until the children are older, thereby, lessening the impact a divorce may have on them. When children are exposed to chronic conflict between …
I’ll never forget the day I knew I no longer wanted to stay “stuck” in my marriage. While having lunch with a friend, she pointed out that I didn’t seem happy a few days earlier when she was having dinner at my home with her husband. For years, I had not told anyone I had …
As a divorce coach, I will never tell clients “Time will heal their divorce wounds.” Can you take a guess why? For the simple reason, that it is not a long-term strategy and for the fact that I don’t believe that statement is true. In fact, as a divorce coach, I see first-hand how damaging …
A few weeks ago, a new client explained how he learned of his impending divorce. It began with an argument over issues they had fought over numerous times: money, lack of sex, and their kids. However, this time it didn’t end with either one of them apologizing. The next day, he left for a business …
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