You most likely knew divorce was going to be a difficult adjustment for the entire family. You anticipated possibly losing your home, assets, and a major adjustment to your finances. However, you never dreamed divorce would include watching your children be taken away and being cast as the “villain,” the antagonist in your divorce story. […]
Enduring the riptide of parental alienation! Read More »
A few months ago, my client “Tom” phoned me to discuss how his meeting with his soon-to-be ex-wife went. She had phoned him numerous times and each time laying a guilt trip on him. What was ironic is that she had filed for divorce yet was relentless in getting him to feel guilty about the
guilt can lead to bad decisions in your divorce! Read More »
You’ve made the decision that your marriage is not going to work. You brought up the topic of divorce and hoping to go about this amicably. However, she didn’t respond, or you couldn’t agree to the terms. Your gut is telling you this is going to be a divorce war. Now what? I’m asked many
File first or come out last! Read More »
Are you watching commercial after commercial showing families gathering for the holidays and thinking to yourself how sad and frustrated you are due to not being with your children this holiday? I tell my clients “You cannot control the holidays, but you can control how you go through them.” Let’s think about that for a
GOING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS WITHOUT YOUR CHILDREN Read More »
I received a few emails from women recently, informing me how as a woman I “should not” be working with men going through a divorce and that by doing so, I am merely giving men leverage against women. Words such as “traitor, conspirator, and even misogynist” were thrown around. My work with men is not
Toxic Feminism is real! Read More »
Once your divorce settlement is final, you know where everything of value that you acquired during your marriage has gone. But what about the intangibles, like the love and emotional bonds you shared with another person? Where do they go? The truth is, it is often much easier to part with material things than the
How to emotionally divorce your ex-spouse! Read More »
Reacting to your ex-wife isn’t usually the best move; responding is a much better choice. We’ll look deeper into the differences between the two, but first, let’s take this scenario as an example: The next few days are your allotted time with your child. As you’re rushing out the door to pick her up from
Reaction vs. Response: Which is better? Read More »
Recently, a client phoned me in a state of panic. His wife tripped over the family dog and scraped her nose and cheek. She was intoxicated and began to yell at the dog which prompted my client to go downstairs and see what all the commotion was about. Slurring her words, she told him what
How to predict & protect yourself from false allegations during a divorce. Read More »
It’s hard enough going through your divorce with your high conflict spouse, but now you’ve entered the frustrating and emotional phase of trying to co-parent with them and lessen those effects on your children. As an adult, we have a better chance to get away from a toxic friend, partner, or boss often with some degree of difficulty,
When your child has a toxic parent Read More »
Last year, my client Greg (not his real name) was facing what seemed like an uphill battle. He had finished medical school a few years before getting married. Both Greg and his wife worked while he attended medical school. His wife was working many more hours each week. Fast forward a few years and Greg
YOUR DEGREE MAY BECOME MARITAL PROPERTY IN YOUR DIVORCE. Read More »