Oftentimes, I have clients who have shared custody with their ex, yet due to various reasons, cannot communicate with them. Just recently, a client explained how for months he tried to communicate with his ex-wife, to no avail. She rarely returned his calls or emails. When his children were sick and went to the doctor, …
A few weeks ago, I had a consultation with a gentleman who reached out to me for help to both navigate his divorce and improve his co-parenting relationship with his wife. His parenting concerns were a bit unusual. As we discussed his fears, he did not know if he would be a good father due …
BEING A GOOD FATHER DESPITE HAVING A BAD ONE YOURSELF! Read More »
I want you to think about this; when we put labels on parents such as “custodial” and “non-custodial” would you agree that we are creating a winner and a loser? I think it’s also safe to say we are also an image in the mind of the child, such as “my dad lost in the …
CUSTODIAL vs. NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT; A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY FOR FATHERS? Read More »
Speaking with a client earlier this week, he described new behaviors he was seeing with his estranged wife. His co-parenting relationship had become “different” once he moved out of the family home a few weeks earlier. To start with, he had difficulty reaching his children each time he phoned. There were excuses such as “they’re …
5 Warning Signs Parental Alienation May Begin To Occur. Read More »
You most likely knew divorce was going to be a difficult adjustment for the entire family. You anticipated possibly losing your home, assets, and a major adjustment to your finances. However, you never dreamed divorce would include watching your children be taken away and being cast as the “villain,” the antagonist in your divorce story. …
You’ve made the decision that your marriage is not going to work. You brought up the topic of divorce and hoping to go about this amicably. However, she didn’t respond, or you couldn’t agree to the terms. Your gut is telling you this is going to be a divorce war. Now what? I’m asked many …
Are you watching commercial after commercial showing families gathering for the holidays and thinking to yourself how sad and frustrated you are due to not being with your children this holiday? I tell my clients “You cannot control the holidays, but you can control how you go through them.” Let’s think about that for a …
GOING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS WITHOUT YOUR CHILDREN Read More »
Reacting to your ex-wife isn’t usually the best move; responding is a much better choice. We’ll look deeper into the differences between the two, but first, let’s take this scenario as an example: The next few days are your allotted time with your child. As you’re rushing out the door to pick her up from …
It’s hard enough going through your divorce with your high conflict spouse, but now you’ve entered the frustrating and emotional phase of trying to co-parent with them and lessen those effects on your children. As an adult, we have a better chance to get away from a toxic friend, partner, or boss often with some degree of difficulty, …
After working with men for over the years I’ve realized that no matter how hard they work at being wonderful single fathers, there are myths that surround them, and they don’t seem to cease. I want to shed light on the 3 biggest myths about single dads with the hope of helping someone out there …