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HOW TO SPOT EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Men often describe in detail their marriage and what led to its demise during their consultations. I’m often surprised by how long they have dealt with a spouse who emotionally abused them for long periods. Sadly, they will turn to

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DIVORCING OVER 50; IS IT WORTH IT?

  I was struck by a recent conversation I had during a consultation. “Daniel” had expressed how unhappy he has been for the past seven years in his 32-year marriage. Both children were grown and married, his career was incredibly

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Torn "Alimony" paper on hundred-dollar bills

WHY MEN DON’T RECEIVE ALIMONY!

There is no doubt that women have traditionally received alimony more often than men.  However, men should understand that they have just as much right to spousal support as their wives if the circumstances were reversed. Last week, I did

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What To Expect When You Ignore A Narcissist! Part One

What happens when you ignore a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder isn’t easy. Their reaction to being ignored tends to be dramatic, exaggerated, and chaotic. As you know, they want to make a scene. They want to trigger you to feel ashamed,

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HOW TO OUTSMART THE COVERT NARCISSIST!

The term “narcissist” gets thrown around a lot it’s often used as a catch-all to describe people with any traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Narcissism is more complex than it’s made out to be in pop culture. It occurs

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HOW TO FORGIVE MYSELF DURING MY DIVORCE.

Divorce guilt comes in multiple forms. It is normal for many of us to feel like we are somehow to blame for the divorce. Culturally, we are taught that keeping the household and marriage successful was our responsibility, even though

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ARE YOU BEING TRIGGERED BY YOUR EX?

Your ex probably knows how to press your buttons better than anyone. Maybe they are always late picking up or dropping off your kids despite your reminders to be on time. It could be the patronizing way they speak to

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Your first holiday divorced; now what?

Every year, my clients brace for November and December when the dreaded holiday season begins. Recently, a client informed me he was relieved to have “survived” Thanksgiving and bracing himself for Christmas morning without his children this year. For those

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